Dear Savvy Sister: I needs me a man

Reminder: The questions posed in this occasional column are written by actual people.  Dear Savvy Sister, Please help me with my sick, sick joke of an early-twenties love life. I am a smart, clean, educated, reasonably attractive woman with a dog.  Sincerely, Lone Sharkette Dear Lone Sharkette, You’re clean? Well, that’s the problem. Pick up a copy of 50 Shades of Grey, and dirty yourself up a bit. KIDDING! Sex is not the answer! Though my similarly aged Research AssistantRead more

Dear Savvy Sister: Do I matter?

REMINDER: The questions posed in this occasional column are written by actual people.   Dear Savvy Sister, I feel marginalized and I think everyone kind of does no matter what … or maybe not if you have a serious personality disorder. Discussion: perfectionism, defeatism, and possible solutions : ) Sincerely, Average Josephine     Dear Average, I’m so glad you ended your question with a smiley face. I assume that’s your subtle method of asking me not to diagnose youRead more

Dear Savvy Sister: About this pint-sized bully….

Reminder: The questions posed in this occasional column are written by actual people.  Dear Savvy Sister, My 4 1/2-year-old son used to be the most well-liked kid in preschool. A little over a year ago, a boy began calling him names and being very aggressive. I addressed the issues with the parents – who were divorcing at the time. They used to be good friends of ours. Now the mother no longer speaks to me becasue I spoke about theRead more

Dear Savvy Sister: Wine makes me cranky! Should I do shots, instead?

Reminder: The questions posed in this occasional column are posed by actual people.    Dear Savvy Sister, What’s the best way to booze in your 40s? As much as I love my vino, I have noticed wine tends to keep me up in the middle of the night. What’s the science here? Is this a hormone thing or a chemical reaction? Should I consider switching to another adult beverage, and if so, what do you suggest, Sister? Sincerely, Merlot DearRead more

Dear Savvy Sister: Where’s Granny?

Reminder: The questions answered in this occasional column are posed by actual people.  Dear Savvy Sister, What’s up with today’s grandparents? We all grew up with grandparents who were willing to be present and look old — and help from time to time. My grandmother lived with us for a few months out of every year — and we went to stay with her each summer. Today, I find that generation to be too active, disinterested or out-of-touch to beRead more

Dear Savvy Sister: I’m old. Now what?

Reminder: the questions posed in this occasional column have been posed by actual people.    Dear Savvy Sister, So the elapsed time indicator has passed 59, and the projected viable life span is about 25 +1 years. Warranty has pretty much expired on all parts. How do I keep from spending the majority of the viability span plopped in front of the big screen TV? Hate the thought of watching Fox News for the next quarter century…I have a perceptiblyRead more

Dear Savvy Sister: the world sucks, and there’s nothing I can do

Dear Generous Readers, Sometimes the Savvy Sister encounters people in everyday life who need her advice but don’t have five minutes to send her an email. If they would just quick checking Facebook ever so briefly they could write down a single sentence and zip it off to me, but whatever. Those freaky cat videos aren’t going to watch themselves. So. The other day I was at Starbucks enjoying a Tall Decaf Nonfat 1-Raw-Sugar Cappuccino while the Tyrant inhaled cookiesRead more

Dear Savvy Sister: I’m losing my mind. Please, no pictures.

Reminder: The questions in this occasional column are posed by actual people.  Dear Savvy Sister, A few days ago I finally watched “A Beautiful Mind” with Russell Crowe. It was so powerful, and as we have a nephew who deals with bipolar disease, it hit pretty close to home, too. But to see what Dr. John Nash had dealt with and the life he was able to make – even with his mental disability – was inspiring and moving. NowRead more

Dear Savvy Sister: So I loaned my BFF money….

The questions featured in this occasional column were written by actual people.   Dear Savvy Sister, I loaned my best friend money about nine years ago – before I had kids –  to get her car out of repo. She told me it was the bank’s fault. I also helped her get a different loan from another bank. She agreed to pay me back the money – about $5,000 – as soon as she got things back in order. ButRead more

Dear Savvy Sister: Won’t you be my friend?

Dear Savvy Sister, I am a huge introvert and I find as I get older, I have a harder time making real connections with people. (People so often misunderstand introversion because they don’t see me as a “shy” person). I really don’t enjoy “Mommy” groups, book clubs, “Girls Night Out,” or any function where I have to gather with people I don’t know very well. I work a lot and when I am not working, I spend most of myRead more